As caregivers, whether parent or teacher, we are sometimes quick to judge the behaviour of a child without first thinking of the underlying cause of misbehaviour. So why do children misbehave? Are our expectations realistic?
Some children want to be in complete control, meaning that no-one should boss them around as they have the power.Some basic tools for avoiding misbehaviour are important.
What is your care giving style?
What are natural and logical consequences?
What, where, when, why and how are words we should work with, and let's reword the don'ts.
Do we allow aggressive play, and if not, how do we redirect aggressive play to empowering play?
Why is consistency important?
A 3-hour Certificate of Completion is issued for this workshop.
Exerpt from the Course.
As caregivers, whether parent or teacher, we are sometimes quick to judge the behavior of a child without first thinking of the underlying cause of the behavior. We should consider that a young child could be woken out of a sound sleep in the morning, forced to dress and have breakfast, loaded into a car or bus and trundled off to daycare.
There he spends his time basically doing what the caregiver wants him to do.
He has no choice in the fact that he has to go to daycare.
If someone did this to us, I wonder how we would feel. Personally I'm not a morning person to start with, so if someone woke me up early I think I'd be pretty cranky.
So let's take a look at some of the behavior a child may exhibit and why.
The first thing to look at is development. How old is the child, and how much can he handle?
A toddler for example may bite another child…obviously he's not doing it because he's hungry. Much of the time it's because he cannot communicate verbally, and so it's easier to grab a chunk of flesh in his mouth than try to verbally communicate.
So we need to relate to developmentally appropriate behavior.
The next thing we need to find out about is the child himself.
What is he allowed to do at home…is he allowed to walk around with food in his hand? In the childcare he is expected to sit at the table.
Does he have limits set for him at home, or is he free to do what he wants when he chooses?